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Personal development, self-doubt and imposter syndrome

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“ I can't do that anyway – oh dear, I can hardly keep up here – maybe it's just not for me.” Do you know this inner voice full of criticism? You've come to the right place if you want more self-confidence, courage and joie de vivre – therapy can help you in the process of your personal development.

Overcome self-doubt

Self-doubt is not only exhausting – it blocks great opportunities and limits us. The more we question ourselves, the more we hold back, wait, or try to keep a low profile.

Perhaps you have tried to be particularly successful or diligent in order to overcome your self-doubt – and then found out disappointed that it didn’t work. Self-doubt often lives inside us and is particularly persistent.

Self-doubt can also be triggered by new challenges or a feeling of being overwhelmed. For example, when we experience stress at work or when we experience rejection in our private lives. Of course we also doubt ourselves because we are afraid of not being good enough or not being accepted by other people.

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The Impostor Syndrome

Recurring and stubborn self-doubt can result in impostor syndrome, also known as impostor syndrome. This phenomenon can be recognised by the following signs:

They always think they should have given more and are constantly dissatisfied with their performance.
They think that all their successes and achievements are just coincidences.
You feel out of place.
You no longer dare to do anything.
They behave as inconspicuously as possible so that nobody sees how difficult they are with their tasks.
You worry that others will see that you are actually incompetent.
You feel uncomfortable when you receive positive feedback and find it difficult to accept compliments.
You would describe yourself as a perfectionist.
You sometimes lie awake at night with worries, have many fears and sometimes also depressive moods.

If you recognise these signs in yourself, you will benefit from therapy. And not because there is something wrong with you or you need to improve, but simply because you deserve more self-confidence and zest for life.

Strengthen the personality

Therapy isn't just helpful when you're struggling personally – therapy is also a way to grow personally and find more self-confidence. Personal development is a conscious reflection and change in one's own attitude and behaviour. If you recognise yourself in the following sentences, you've come to the right place:

You want to better understand your own thoughts and emotions and are open to what you can learn about yourself.
They want to regain a sense of control over their lives and want to take responsibility for their own decisions, thoughts, feelings and actions, rather than blaming others.
You are curious and open to change.
You bring along some patience and perseverance.

Therapy and personal development have a variety of benefits:

Increased self-esteem and self-confidence
A better handling of different challenges
A sense of inner strength
More courage and openness
Better problem-solving skills and communication skills
A sense of independence and self-efficacy

There is no uniform strategy for personality development in psychology – every person is different and character traits are flexible and adaptable. The following processes are crucial for personality development:

Self-reflection: An analysis of their current situation, which allows a better understanding of their strengths and weaknesses and leads to new insights.
Self-Care: Accepting your current situation and being kind to yourself – it's not about manipulating yourself, it's about finding a healthy way of dealing with challenges and negative emotions.
Confidence: A shift in your deepest beliefs and habits to practice new behaviours and achieve your goals.

I'll help you overcome your self-doubt

Coaching can help you to develop personally and to feel more self-confidence and joie de vivre. Therapy is necessary if you feel increasingly restricted by your self-doubt or if you have even developed anxiety and depression. I accompany you in your process of self-reflection in order to develop more self-care and self-confidence.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS (FAQ)

How can you develop personally?

Therapy isn’t just helpful if you’re struggling with your physical or mental health – therapy is also a way to grow personally and find more confidence. Personal development is a conscious reflection and change in one’s own attitude and behaviour. If you recognise yourself in the following sentences, you’ve come to the right place:

You want to better understand your own thoughts and emotions and are open to what you can learn about yourself.
They want to regain a sense of control over their lives and want to take responsibility for their own decisions, thoughts, feelings and actions, rather than blaming others.
You are curious and open to change.
You bring along some patience and perseverance.

What is part of personal development?

The following processes are crucial for personality development:

Self-reflection: An analysis of their current situation, which allows a better understanding of their strengths and weaknesses and leads to new insights.
Self-Care: Accepting your current situation and being kind to yourself – it’s not about manipulating yourself, it’s about finding a healthy way of dealing with challenges and negative emotions.
Confidence: A shift in your deepest beliefs and habits to practice new behaviours and achieve your goals.

How is self-doubt expressed?

Self-doubt is that nasty inner voice that constantly questions and criticizes ourselves. Many people appear confident, competent and successful – you don’t usually notice from the outside that they have self-doubt and suffer from it. Self-doubt can also express itself in excessive thinking and brooding and lead to worries, fears and sometimes even depressive moods.

What can you do about self-doubt?

Getting rid of self-doubt is not that difficult with the following methods:

Present personal achievements, accomplishments and past successes
Create a gratitude journal
Write a letter to yourself in which you speak up and encourage yourself
Shut off the critical inner voice and instead talk to yourself the way you talk to your good friends

Systemic counselling sessions can help to develop personally and to feel more self-confidence and joie de vivre. Therapy is necessary if you feel increasingly restricted by your self-doubt or if you have even developed anxiety and depression.

How does self-doubt arise?

Self-doubt is deep within us – and that’s why it’s so persistent and stressful. Most self-doubt arises very early in life and is related to our underlying beliefs – these arise from experiences and observations in our childhood. Traumatic experiences or deep life crises, such as unemployment or a serious illness, can also trigger self-doubt. Other causes are bad experiences with other people, e.g. narcissists, toxic relationships or setbacks at work. Self-doubt can also be triggered by new challenges or a feeling of being overwhelmed. For example, when we start a new job, experience stress in everyday work or when we experience rejection in our private lives. Of course we also doubt ourselves because we are afraid of not being good enough or not being accepted by other people.

Why do I have so much self-doubt?

Self-doubt is quite normal – most people doubt their abilities, competencies and also their decisions.

Can self-doubt lead to depression?

Yes. Self-doubt is not only exhausting – it blocks great opportunities and limits us. The more we question ourselves, the more we hold back, wait, or try to keep a low profile. And this creates fears, feelings of inferiority and fears over time.